Another post deleted.

I deleted the last podcast because the HFJ editorial staff (my mother) thought I gave out far too much personal information. And I gotta do what my mother says. It’s an involuntary reaction.

BTW, I won’t be able to go to the video blogger event tomorrow night at the Pink Cow. My company is holding a going away party that night for a coworker who left the company at the end of last month. The nicest thing I can say about him leaving is that things won’t be the same without him.

Rich Pav

Richard has been living in Japan since 1990 with his wife and two teenage sons, Tony and Andy.

13 thoughts to “Another post deleted.”

  1. Can you fire your editorial staff? :p Naw, I know she has your best interests at heart.

    Though it was up for a short period, it was a privilege to hear something that personal expressed as you did. Thanks. Maybe you can find solace listening to it again whenever those unanswered questions about that friendship come creeping up on you, but I do recall you saying you hate listening to your own podcasts. So I guess that is a terrible idea. Just a thought…heh

  2. While I’m disappointed that I idn’t get to grab that podcast before you took it down, respect you for being willing to do something personal publicly, and am left curious as to whether or not the story in that podcast was the same one you told me over pigs’ feet 23 days ago, I’m going to agree with your mother here and say that anyting too personal probably shouldn’t be public. Nonetheless, I am sorry I missed the podcast, especially since you’re not as podcastically prolific as you once were. (Believe me, I don’t fault you for that at all.)

    Garrett’s last blog post..Michelin Guide, PS3 outsells Wii, Chinese Navy visits Japan, and DPJ wants ASDF out of Iraq: TPR News for Monday, December 3, 2007

  3. Rich –

    That podcast was one of your absolute best, and podcasts are best when we are able to share stories of our lives – especially intimate ones.

    I disagree with your mom. No personal information about the other person was given. No one listening to the podcast knows who she is, and on your side you shared parts of your life willingly. I did not think it was over the line. It’s too bad others won’t get to hear it, though anyone who fired up a podcatcher when it was first up and was subscribed to HFJ got it.


  4. Bravo Rich. I support your decision but that was the single greatest podcast I’ve ever heard. And I don’t really like listening to podcasts aside from Meet the Press.

  5. Jeez, man, you made me want to hop a plane and fly out to give you a hug at the end of that podcast! I was listening to it on the way in to work this morning, so I hold you responsible for not getting any work done for the first 15 minutes as I listened to the end of the episode. Here’s hoping that putting it out there helped you out in some way.

  6. Rich,
    I’ve been a long time listener. Yes, the podcast you deleted was the one that touches me the most. For many reasons. I like podcasts, and and I started my own over 3 years ago for that sole purpose, sharing a bit of my personal stories to inspire or sometimes let another person know that they are not alone out there with the similar issues.
    I’m sorry that you have to pull this down. I’m certain, more than just me are touched by the story. And there will be many more who’d benefit from it. But I also understand your reasons for doing so.

    I went through the same deal with a close friend of mine. The one I called my best friend, and I’ve never had one. The one I chat with daily. And things happened his life that I had no control over, and things starting to fall apart for us. At least it seems like that to me. Last we spoke, things were supposedly ok. But we have barely exchanged more than 20 sentences online over the last six months. He insisted things between us is ok. But I doubt it is. If it’s not and ended friendship, it certainly is a different one now. No matter how much hope I have, or how much he thinks it’s the same, it just isn’t the same.

    The pain I heard in your voice, I had the same. I shed tears. Trying to do too much, trying to not do anything, but the pain comes back. I hope it is not true for you, but if it is the same as what I went through, it takes time to heal. For me, it took over 4 to 5 months for me to feel better. I don’t think I will be completely healed. The little prick is always there. That might take longer to get rid of.

    I wish you all the best, and I don’t think there is anything anyone could do or say to make it better. Just knowing that someone else has just been through that, and people here send you their thoughts would be nice. That’s why I wish the podcast is still there for those who are going though the very same situation. But I definitely respect your decision.

    Take care.

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  7. I can definitely understand deleting it. None of us that don’t know your friend should be able to figure out who she is, but someone that knows you and/or her might know and then have lots more information about their situation than they did previously. Maybe that’s what your mother was worried about.

    Hope it’s not a setback, as I’ve enjoyed the videos you’ve been putting up recently and look forward to more videos/podcasts.

  8. Rich, let me add to the chorus of folks who did get to hear this podcast and tell you how moving, sad, and poignant it was. I appreciate your sharing this with us, but more than that, I hope the process of thinking through the events and making a podcast from them has been cathartic and has helped ease the sadness you feel. Podcasting is strange in that we, the listeners, can feel a very strong empathy for what you are going through even though you may not know us from Adam (or Eve)! So I hope that is reassuring in some cosmic way. Also, if it reassures your mother, you can let her know that the average listener such as myself who isn’t close to the situation would have no idea who the friend you mention is from what you said in the podcast, although I can still understand why you decided to take it down.

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